Let’s face it; parenting during toddler meltdowns is hard. The pouting, crying, and screaming sounds far from a good time for anyone. Trying to keep our kid quiet in the middle of an outburst won’t do you any favors, either. When our kid becomes so upset to the point where we want to throw a fit ourselves, we need to stop and take a breather.
By trying to contain our toddler’s explosive emotions, it can be challenging to keep our cool. How well a parent can keep their composure during a kid’s rage-fit can foreshadow their toddler’s reactions to future situations.
So, how do we keep ourselves cool when our toddlers are having a meltdown of epic proportions? Read on to find out more.
If you’re about to have a tantrum yourself, here are some tips on how to keep yourself cool during an epic toddler meltdown:
As a parent who has experienced toddler meltdowns, you can surely testify how the screaming, shouting, and overall outbursts drive you crazy. If your child feels out of control, the best thing you can do is take a deep breath and remain calm.
While it’s easier said than done, staying calm and recollected during these trying times can help alleviate the situation. Try not to distract your child from the tantrum; instead, be there for them to offer compassion and emotional support. By showing your child empathy, you can both handle the storm as a team.
Understand the “Whys”
It may be difficult for a parent to believe that tantrums can be of benefit in the long-run. Tantrums are normal and healthy, as it allows your kid to release their frustrations. While it’s not a pretty sight, It’s perfectly healthy for kids to release their frustrations. Once they empty their overflowing tank of tears, they almost immediately feel better. Many toddlers will quickly bounce back and feel calmer after getting their anger out of their system. Gradual self-taught anger management skills will help your toddler learn how to soothe themselves when they are distressed. This crucial aspect of toddlerhood will be helpful for problem-solving skills as they grow into adults.
When experiencing toddler meltdowns, children undergo a dramatic series of emotions they are unable to control. Punishing a child when they’re in the middle of a meltdown is a bad idea. In most cases, it can make the situation worse.
When a tantrum has ensued, an adult can be unsurprisingly anxious to stop the screaming. Shouting and yelling in the heat of the moment is sure to escalate the situation. By punishing your child during a meltdown, you’ll end up frustrating them more and preventing them from thinking over their solutions. Instead, wait until after the storm blows over to see if punishment is even necessary.
Talking, shouting, or threatening a child in the middle of a meltdown can make anyone feel crazy. When a child is in full-blown screaming mode, the last thing on their mind is to stop and listen to you. Please take comfort in knowing there’s a time and place to find the right words. In the middle of a meltdown, your child simply won’t hear you. Allow yourself to step back and catch a necessary break – you’ll thank yourself later.
Be Patient and Supportive
By being present for your child, you’re there to recognize their frustrations. You should use short and concise sentences when talking to them and give them plenty of time to speak when ready. Let them know their feelings are valid. Allow a tantrum to run its course. Despite how it may seem, young kids don’t choose to throw tantrums. Instead, they are trying to release the piled-up emotions in them. While most of their outbursts may seem absurd, they are suitable for them at such a young age. When you try to distract or rush them out of a tantrum, they may feel you’re ignoring their feelings. When you see them finally coming to their senses, you can offer your child a warm hug to help you both feel better.
Bringing up a toddler is difficult, and meltdowns play a significant role in that. In case you lose your cool, as all parents do often, you still have another chance to practice these tips that will help you see things from your child’s perspective.