No one said that relationships were easy. In fact, it’s often said that relationships are the hardest thing to do in life. But that doesn’t mean that they’re not worth fighting for. So how do you know if your relationship is worth fighting for? Here are a few signs to look out for.
Do you love the other person?
If you don’t, then stop wasting your time. If you do, then it’s probably worth fighting for so long as both of you still believe that it is too. After all, love conquers all and if there’s one thing to fight for in life, it would be love. It’s important to remember that you can never control how people will feel or how they behave. All you can do is give your all and hope for the best.
Do you see a future with them?
People say that actions speak louder than words, but it’s your actions that can either prove or disprove what you truly believe. Do you see a future with the person you’re with? If yes, then keep fighting for it because if there’s one thing worth fighting for in life, it would be love and happiness. It might not make sense right now, but in the long run, it will. It’s always a good idea to speak to each other about the future that you see for each other. It can help to clear things up and prevent further misunderstandings. Additionally, if you want to make sure that your relationship is worth fighting for, then it would help if both of you discussed what sort of future each other wants and see where the two paths meet. This way, you’ll be able to avoid unnecessary fights and any chance of breaking up.
Are they good to you?
They should be loving and caring and treat you with respect at all times. It doesn’t matter if they’re sometimes rude or can’t help but get angry from time to time, everyone has their moments. But the way they behave towards you speaks volumes about how much your relationship means to them. If they don’t care about your feelings or make fun of you even though you don’t like it, then they probably don’t value your relationship as much as you do. Pay attention to the overall atmosphere of your relationship and see if you feel good or not.
Do they make you happy?
This one is related to the first point – if you’re not in love with them or think that they’re just using you for their own ends, then it’s obviously not worth fighting for. But if they truly care about you and respect you and can make life more enjoyable whenever they’re around, then keeping up with your relationship is definitely worth it. You can make each other stronger and happier, after all.
So how do I know if my partner feels the same way?
You should read between the lines during everyday conversations and pay attention to the way that they behave around you. If they get angry easily or get moody whenever something is wrong, then it might be a sign that they’re not happy with you anymore. But if your partner tells you how much of a difference you make in their life, and actually thank you for being there through thick and thin, then you know that they care about you and probably love you too. Be sure to let them know how much it means to you, as well – even if neither of you says the word “love”, actions speak louder than words after all.
It may also be the case that their attachment style is at odds with yours, which is something you may need to work out in couples therapy, or therapy in general if either or both of you have relationship-based trauma. They could be someone who tries to avoid a lot of relationship actions as they fear being rejected. They may want that attachment with you but their fear holds them back. It is important to know that if you are in this type of relationship, you need to understand why avoidants push you away and what that can mean in the long haul for you both, and if you can work through it.
Do they listen to you?
Another good way to know if someone is actually connected to you is by finding out if they’re willing to listen when something goes wrong or when there’s a problem with your day at school/college etc. Do they make time for you or turn their head away when something bad happens? If they do, then you’re very lucky indeed.
Some people just pretend to care even if they don’t, and it can be difficult to tell when someone is just pretending and when they actually mean it. But if you pay attention and use the tips in this article, then hopefully you’ll know for sure whether your relationship is worth fighting for or not.
Is there trust between the two of you?
Trust is another important ingredient in any relationship. It gives it strength and makes it even stronger when problems occur. Without trust, both of you may find yourselves doing things that will ensure your relationship’s destruction just because you don’t feel like you can trust the other person to keep their word or not break your heart. Trusting someone means feeling secure in them, and if they don’t make you feel that way, then it might mean that they’re not worth your time after all.
There are numerous ways to test the trustworthiness of your partner. Perhaps the most obvious thing to do is to see if they keep their promises or not, since that shows how much they value you and whether they’re willing to go out of their way for you or not. You can also test this by asking them something personal – things like realizing that someone you trust knows what your favorite TV show is or what your favorite food is are usually very intimate.
How do they behave around other people?
Part of being a couple is being able to look out for each other’s best interests. This means that you should trust your partner enough to stand by their side and be on their side even when there are things going wrong in front of others. If they try to push the blame onto you or use you as a scapegoat, then they’re not being a good partner and the relationship isn’t worth fighting with them over either.
These are just some ways to ensure that your relationship is strong enough to weather all storms together, but what matters most is how much happiness both of you derive from being together. If you’re not happy with your relationship, then it’s your duty to break it off. But if you are, then there’s no need for either of you to give up on the other ever again.